Woke surfer Tara Ruttenberg says you may find "unchartered realms of polyamory, open relationships, fluid and sacred sexualities, plant medicine" etc!
Do you remember the brave essay of American surfer Tara Ruttenberg from three months ago called As the Only Woman in the Lineup, Here’s Why I Don’t Apologize for Taking the Waves I Want?
Ruttenberg sure did let the patriarchy have it, serving a dish of sunburnt male flesh on a bed of sodium-rich men-can-go-fuck-themselves white rice.
“Short of putting anyone in danger or acting like a complete asshole out there, I’m dropping into the waves I want, every wave I can make,” she wrote. “And I’m giving absolutely no apologies for being there. For being here. For being anywhere.”
In essay released today on her website tarantulasurf.com, Ruttenberg, who self-identifies as “writer, surfer, teacher, yogini, consultant and PhD candidate in development studies” poses the very good question, “Are you ready to date a woke woman?”
“She will encourage you to explore the patriarchal origins of your sexual desires as a means of acknowledging the ways in which your sexuality has been colonized by seemingly accepted dynamics of pornographic misogyny that are regularly oppressive, offensive and degrading to women everywhere.” TARA RUTTENBERG
‘Woke’ describes a woman who is attuned to injustice, particularly related to sexism, and alert to the ways that systems of power and domination – like patriarchy – seek to stifle women’s freedom, equity and equality. By rising into our truth as woke women, we are challenging the men in our lives to step into the profound soul work needed to bring deeper harmony among humanity.
“A woke woman will help you become acutely aware of the ways you have been socially conditioned into perpetuating and reproducing norms of toxic masculinity, sexism and misogyny.”
“Expect scintillating conversations and perhaps even explorations into the unchartered realms of polyamory, open relationships, fluid and sacred sexualities, plant medicine, ritual ceremonies, transformational festivals, spiritual practices, alternative lifestyles and communal living arrangements.”
“A woke woman will not degrade herself to fulfill your pornographically misogynistic sexual fantasies. Instead, she will encourage you to explore the patriarchal origins of your sexual desires as a means of acknowledging the ways in which your sexuality has been colonized by seemingly accepted dynamics of pornographic misogyny that are regularly oppressive, offensive and degrading to women everywhere. She will support you in deconstructing the domineering, masochistic and addictive foundations of your sexual fantasies as you explore new avenues for profound emotional intimacy and sacred sexual connection beyond the misogynous representations of pornographic styles of sex you have been taught and brainwashed to desire. You may have to rise into the occasion of becoming more attuned to your emotions and energies as a basis for intimacy and sexual connection. A woke woman will be unabashedly wild in her desires, and she will need a man willing and able to support her in the powerful expression of her divine sexuality. For many men, this is a frighteningly tall order.”
And so on.
I like woke women but I also like slightly drunk women with tropical flower garnishes tucked behind their left ears (available!).
(Read the rest of the essay here.)