Win the game!
Surfing is such a wonderful way to pass the time but did you know it also provides a way for people to learn how to deal with life’s challenges? Real hardships? It’s true and we can find the latest powerful example in life coach David Bederman’s powerful recent teaching. Bederman, who declares, “First off, I’m not a life coach and I don’t have a coaching ‘certificate.’ Nobody has given me permission to do what I do,” took to TikTok and shared:
If you want to be happier, you need to use something that I call “The Surfer’s Mentality”. See, because there’s something a surfer understands better about life than most other people see a surfer once they get up on the wave. But they don’t make the mistake of believing that once they’re up that they’re going to stay there forever when they get up there. They enjoy it and they ride it as far as they can. But at every moment they realize that that wave is going to crash and that they’re going to fall and maybe another wave is going to crash on top of them. But they don’t let that get them down because a surfer understands that there’s always more waves coming. And that is the experience of surfing, trying to get up on the wave, waiting to get up on the next wave, getting ready and being prepared for the waves that crash over you. And if you can enjoy the entire experience of being alive, the moments that are challenging as much as the highs and understand that they are two parts of the same experience, then, my friend, you will have won the game.
Crash and fall.
Crash and fall.
The surfers’ way.
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This is not a surf article… wtf is your obsession with this celebrity couple.. you better not collect a salary to write this trash….
all armchair quarterbacks…
Spoken like a true non surfer.
The “surfers mentality” to me has been about constant vigil and trial and down times between up times you can’t recreate in other ways leading to constant stress and vigilance should the wind change.
At least the crack whore knows where to find the crack.
Surfing has led me to develop a world class stinkeye, to have little doubt that that friendly guy in the lot is ready to snake me in the water, and that those are my fucking waves and keep the fuck away.
I think Easy E may have said it best:
“I ain’t your muthafukin role-model”
There was this one time, y’all, and it entailed me winning all of life’s challenges. And surfing was tantamount. You shoulda been there
Great now I have jack Johnson AND pearl jam stuck in my head
‘Can’t find a bedermaaan’
Listen to Ride the Lightning, it will wash that -a- shit out!
I see the jelly, I see the jam
Can’t find the butter man…
very creative…..
We Read and Weep, Chas.
If you are always happy you will never be sad. – David Bederman
“Giving me money will make you happy.”
Surfing taught me how to lie, cheat, and steal without people getting mad at me.
We’re all winners!! Haha, can’t wait to tell everyone in the water at Pleasure Point!
sending out an SOS and an All-Points Bulletin: “I’ve got a new manifest guys…”
This guy has moved into Charlie Goldsmith’s airstream at the Kelly Slater Surf Ranch!
He’s not quite at that level yet!
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You do seem like the type of person who would have a “life coach” Chas.
Does David Lee Scales count?
You think they find each other’s mumblings therapeutic?