World's most charming and narcissistic surfer performs decades-long social experiment on his own family with mostly bad results.
Seven years ago, Dorian “Doc” Paskowitz, a 93-year-old surfer who had developed the most common-sense guide to eating (“Pinch an inch of fat anywhere on your body and you’re overweight”) and living (“Don’t screw another man’s wife!”), died after surgery gone bad.
Doc, a Russian Jew, went to Stanford, became a doctor, threw it all in to chase surf, introduced surfing to Israel (and later to the Palestinians of Gaza) and surfed up and down the American coastlines with nine kids in a 24-foot van, following his philosophy that wisdom comes not from formal education but experience.
A documentary of his life was made in 2007.
It was called Surfwise and, even if he comes across as a wild tyrant, the stories of him and his wife fucking in the van while the kids blocked their ears and living on gruel and beans and surfing their lives away, is an example of life as an experiment, as a Great Dream.
As fate would play it, me and Matt Warshaw, the great surf historian and former SURFER editor, were kicking around interview favs yesterday and the documentary came up.
BeachGrit: Ain’t it a funny world, one minute we’re talking about best interviews in the game then it turns to Dorian Paskowitz eating pussy and the best surf documentary ever made, Surfwise. Gimme a synopsis?
Warshaw: World’s most charming and narcissistic surfer performs decades-long social experiment on his own family with mixed results.
Mixed results?
Mostly bad results.
Not much surfing in the movie.
Surfing is off to the side—as it should be, or has to be I think, for this kind of movie to work. Surfing just happens to be the thing that gets hold of Dorian and shapes all the choices he makes. But the movie is about those choices, not surfing itself.
Why do you give Surfwise so much weight, above, even, something like Sea Of Darkness?
Because I think any all-in surfer over the age of 25 starts to wonder about what it means to dedicate your life to chasing waves. We do some shit. Dorian pulled his nine kids out of school, loaded everyone in an RV, and basically headed up a small surf-based commune. That’s radical, but in some ways it’s just a scaled-up version of what we all do. So you watch the movie wondering if Doc nailed it or fucked things up completely, and the question U-turns back on your own life as a surfer. For me it does, anyway.
Doc called you once a year, that right? Jew to Jew?
He’d call and it was just an easy warm breeze. I’d just fall right into it. Doc was flattering, gossipy, foul-mouthed, great sense of humor, and a half-hour later I’d hang up smiling and feeling very special—even though I knew he’d moved on and was doing the same routine to the next person on the list. He was very political. I do think he enjoyed talking to me, but he also knew I was writing surf history, and I’m sure he was fluffing his legacy—I’ll be doing the same, soon enough.
Doctor, surfer, womb buster, writer of a grand treatise on what being healthy means, he was a real cat, ol Doz. I bought his book, he sent it to Australia with a handwritten note about how thrilled he was to be sending a book all the way to Bondi. But he wasn’t unconditionally adored by his family, I think safe to say. Like you say, he did a grand experiment via his nine kids in nature vs nurture. How much of us is genetics, how much is what we kick around doing and who’s in our orbit. Some of the Paskowitz kids thrived, didn’t seem to mind the parents sexing next to ‘em most nights, living rough; others wanted to bust out of their daddy’s tough but idealistic bubble, driven mad by it all.
Am amazing part of the movie, that never gets commented on, is that it was co-produced by one of the kids—Jonathan, I think. Family-made movies always have a slant. Andy’s doc did, for sure. But Surfwise was totally open to going wherever it was going to go. I haven’t seen it for a few years, but I very clearly remember sitting in the theater keeping a sort of graph in my head, with “hating dad” on one side and “loving dad” on the other, and placing the nine kids on there. One of the sons, I can’t recall which, was playing piano onscreen at one point, just raging against Dorian, and that floored me. Another one of the kids, one of the younger ones, seemed almost brainwashed by his dad. Then Doc himself, who I think was in his mid-80s, trying to sort it all out while the camera rolls—and kind of failing, as I recall. But like I say, hats off to everyone in the family for putting it all out there at all.
Highlight of film?
It wasn’t any one moment or scene, but something happens in the movie, maybe 15 or 20 minutes in, where you fully realize how complicated and fucked-up the story actually is. Early on you’re watching Doc nude on a stationary bike, a charming old surf-geezer talking fitness and health, and you fall for him, you’re in his camp. And you get to hold onto that notion for while. Then there’s almost a kind of vertigo as the other side of him comes into view. And the film sticks to its guns. You think the big family reunion at the end is going to bring the big redemption for Doc, but it doesn’t. I mean, it’s not an easy film to watch!
The bit where Daddy Doz encouraged one of the other, Moses or Israel, to beat the other to death.
Yeah, that was awful.
From an American point of view, and you were there when it was all happening, the Paskowitz fam were big surf names in the US, yeah?
Not really. Every month in the surf mags there was a little black-and-white ad for the Paskowitz Surf Camp, and I guess they brought in enough people to make a small business out of it. Dorian had a health column in SURFER, but it told us not to eat french fries, and nobody wanted to hear that. The whole deal with the Paskowitz family seemed a little cultish, but surfing itself was a little cultish. Later on, Izzy and Jonathan Paskowitz were maybe the two best young longboarders in the world, but that felt different from the whole Paskowitz family deal.
What do you think Doz got right, and what did he get wrong? Or does it matter? It made great cinema.
As a surfer, especially way back then, you’re always figuring out what kind of deal you’re going to cut with the non-surfing world. How much to go with it—school, job, home, convention—and how much to do it your own way. Doc went full surf. Good for him. The cardinal mistake is that where Dorian was a well-connected Standford-educated practicing doctor at the time of his big decision, his kids were half-feral home-schoolers. They had no say, no choice, the way Doc himself did. Each of the kids seemed remarkable, each in their own way, in the film, and while I only ever knew two or three of them, I sincerely hope they are all doing well and thriving.
Did you talk to him after the movie came out?
Just once. He said he hadn’t watched it, and wouldn’t watch it, which I think was bullshit. But it would have been incredibly difficult for him to say otherwise, probably. That’s a pretty heavy reckoning to deal with at the end of your life. I think about Dorian and Surfwise, a lot, to this day. Sea of Darkness I watched and liked and forgot.
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Cito? Im not really from here. After UCSB I thought Cito looked ok, kinda like my home of Darien Conn. (uber wealthy now)….. I just thought I could grow herbs in the trees..haha…jeez. Waves were Ok here too. $3/bucks/ hr for painting and gardening! And a free room!! haha…what a slacker, Im still here. I think the waves left though.
Or did you mean your kids live down the street from you?
Which is pretty cool. Unless they are errr…like some of my relatives.
Do you come with a translator? Sometimes my A game is too weak to comprehend you!! (discus is a pain to go find whatever I was chattering about this AM after my medicine…Coffeeee
He’s in a way responsible for this
https://youtu.be/BM_OWaItNJM
One could argue that having nine children in a world that is already overpopulated by a factor of 8 is somewhat selfish and/or irresponsible.
Jewish people have a lot of children, as do Mormons and East Indians.
And Elon Musk.
Yeah we got a decision to make when the oldest gets to 12. Stay in the JHS system here, go the int’l school route, or go home to Oz. I’d like to stay here and surf til my legs fall off and have my kids join me. We’ll see what happens and how they feel. Til then, surf til me legs fall off each day then down a couple seasonal beers every arvo. Hasn’t been much typhoon action yet this year eh….
incredible film – encourage everyone to see it, especially all my friends whose dad style (like mine) can be a bit demanding.
i suspect doc wouldn’t have been able to pull off the whole caper if he’d had a few more daughters in the mix. he lucked out that the one girl was so outnumbered – to me she’s one of the strongest voices in the story, even tho not in it much.
I thought the same, Navah seemed by far the least affected by the whole Paskowitz experience.
I’m basically in the same boat. I don’t even have surfer friends, it’s just something I do. Its a great movie, and surfing is not really the main focus of the film. At least as I remember it, but I haven’t seen it in a few years.
I took it more as a warning that if you’re a selfish cunt, those around you will suffer. If I remember correctly some of his kids when they turned 18, were virgins/have never really been on a date (cause how to you date when living in an RV with 9 other people), undereducated, with no social skills. Essentially when his kids moved out they had no skills to make a living/succeed.
Live comment thread this time?
One big question this left me with – why do you like to add a ‘z’ to everyone’s name?
Gotta question him on his fat hypothesis though. If you grab an inch anywhere, you’re fat? In a fit of excitement this morning, I got hold of 5.25 inches. Temporarily. What does that make me?!
I hear you, and while I don’t care about so called surf pros, surf starlets, or contests, the history of surfing does interest me, from Dora to design concepts, it’s been a pretty interesting ride.
But you’re right, all you really need is some waves and some solitude to be content.
Uni in Oki? I’m gettin the girls out on some foamies this summer. They love it so far. With floaties and life jackets haha
Wow, pondered that a bit about my kids, is surfing really a path I want them to travel, as it can be an all consuming addiction..
Christ Almighty, nowhere does freaky narcissism like the U.S.
I’m a temperate kinda guy.
Your hearts in the right place I guess.
I walked in on my parents having sex once when I was young,it was the worst half hour of my life!
half-hour? Legend!
Yep,I was a chip off the old block.Now,my missus calls me Qickdraw McGraw.
Quickdraw McGraw was a horse. Lucky man…
Ha!She said.tell him,more like a sea horse.
It’s all give and take, selfishness and a little bit of compromise. I live in a small town in bumfuck nowhere Japan and surf twice a day most days when there’s swell. Got a good job and a house near the beach. Winning. Haven’t lived in Oz for 25 years and have missed so much of the things I used to live for, especially gettin’ on the piss with mates and watching live footy. Also lost my old man and couldn’t say goodbye, see him in the hospital or go to the funeral. Losing.
We make choices coz we wanna surf. If we can surf and earn dosh, big fucking bonus. If we can surf, earn dosh, and teach our kids to do the same, spurt high in the sky. But I bet there are some pretty big fucking sacrifices thrown in there too.
The important part outta that interview was the issue of choice. Old Doc was highly educated and made the educated choice. But he didn’t offer his kids the option of an educated choice. That’s not something I want to follow.
You probly had the best of it.
Especially when the houses in the beach I grew up in are priced at an average of about 1.5 mill. Yeah, nah
Tradies paradise!!
Waves look better this morning.
Hey what the fuk is this dabbing?
No wonder drugs are mostly illegal.
This legal pot thing could be a disaster.
https://youtu.be/diZxkOqSSeM
Yeah, nice..
Looks like a great day at snapper behind the rocks
Mexico is your Bali
Derek is actually awake and put up the live thread.
Onya Zen
I only meditate on Instagram. With a photographer.
On the back of the terribly selfish statement I replied to you yesterday, blooms this incredibly selfish story that implores all those ideals!.. It was a tounge in cheek reply that triggered a very heartfelt response from you, one that I respected and agree with. More power to you for doing your thing Stanislav…all apologies and obvs was taken way too seriously.
Hahaha nah mate, it’s Beach Grit, ain’t no time for sobby fucken boohoos here. Surfing is the zenith of selfishness. For many good fucking reasons too. When you’re young and single, fuck the world of employment and bosses yada yada. Got trips to take and waves to slay and beers to guzzle with the lads doing the same.
When you couple up and spawn some sprogs shit gets different. Does for me anyway. I’d like nothing more sometimes than to drop work, drop responsibility, drop the mortgage and the school drop offs and fuck off to Indo for a month. Or 3. Did it enough before I got married that you gotta give some shit up sometimes.
Ain’t never giving up surfing. Just the lengthy trips away and coming and going as I please based on tides and winds and swells. Can’t do that so I lurk on BG instead. All good!
T H I S
You nailed it in your last sentence. He had advantages that he did not pass on to his kids. For that I think he’s a dick. I don’t have kids but if I did I would try to give them the best chance at succeeding (and not necessarily monetarily) that I could.
Yeah mate we all dream our kids will pick up a foamie at 2 and waddle out into the water with us. My girls are into twirling ribbons and hula hoops at gymnastics at the moment. Not what I’d envisioned but it makes them smile big and that makes me smile big. Plus I tell myself the balancing will help their surfing in the long run!
Gotta let them explore as many things as possible so they can choose what they love and pursue it. Don’t wanna be a tyrant dictating what they have to do
“Because I think any all-in surfer over the age of 25 starts to wonder about what it means to dedicate your life to chasing waves”.
Or– we don’t wonder about it–we just keep on surfing, blowing career opportunities and relationships and not taking life too seriously.
And then look back and wonder where the last couple of decades went.
I’m guilty.
P.S,
I think I remember an article in the now defunct Surfer mag. (Is anybody listening?), with Matt and Lewis Samuels, talking about how bad surfing can mess with your life if you’re not really careful.
Good article.
Me too.. it’s been a fun ride though. My kids won’t inherit anything of proper value, a great collection of surfboards but nothing to set them up in life.. Sorry groms 🤷🏽♂️
I made some poor life choices that (for a while) didn’t involve surfing, and I wonder where the last couple of decades went anyway. May as well surf.
haha..yeah I was thinking the same thing. Cant really blame surfing. Its a weirdly addictive lifestyle, and sport/art but if not for it?
I dunno…..maybe saved me from doing REALLY stupid stuff.
oh Sam you had to bring all that serious stuff up again! Just when I have almost come to grips with my life of flakiness? Now I feel stupid again….eh not really Im just a surfer I guess.
My father used to ask me (he started me surfing) “why do still like to slide down things all the time?” ” I dunno” Surfing, skating, snowboarding….this was all 60s 70s etc mind you. At the time, the idea of being a “surfbum” or a “ski bum” , washing dishes or whatever to get to go out another day seemed like a perfect exisistence!!! haha now Im a serf! Literally, damn corporate overlords. I should be up there in the seat of power!!! Yeah, No….there is some gold in all of this surfing, hard to pin it down sometimes though. Alright have a good one.
Don’t eat sugar and flour must be the most underprivileged statement ever made.
Yeah I dunno, dosent sound right.